You HAVE to ask the right questions....
So..let's see now,you have joined a couple of dating services and written a killer profile.
You’ve uploaded a good picture and now you are going to chat with a contact. What now? How do you start separating those who have real potential and those who don’t have any potential at all? You need to find out something about who this strange woman really is and not just who she wants you to believe she is. It would be nice if women wore labels like “Gold Digger” or “Daddy’s girl”….but they don’t so it’s up to you to find these things out and you can’t just ask direct questions. You need to know what mistakes you can avoid making and how to impress this lady if you decide you want to do that.
After you are past the initial small talk, ask her, “What are the biggest mistakes guys make when dating online?” Listen carefully to her answers. She’s going to tell you a lot about herself and her views on men in general.
Next you should ask her, “What do you really think about online dating?” Now she will tell you if she has had any bad experiences dating o line and help you to avoid making the same things wrong.
Now for the all-important one…..”What caused the break up in your last relationship?” If she puts all the blame on the guy, you should probably move on to the next prospect. If she takes all the blame herself, you should probably do the same. If she says the breakup was by mutual consent or that the relationship just wasn’t right for either of them, you’ve heard the right answer. Move forward but always with caution.
Asking the right questions will give you insight and make you more confident when you meet the lady for the first time.
Thursday, December 4, 2008
Online Dating Activities For Men
Heads up, gents. Online dating can open up new doors of opportunities with a little help from real world dating tips that work. Spice up your matchmaking with some of these ideas.
Looks Count .........
Comment on how attractive she is. Yes, women do want to know they are pretty, even if they’re online and you can’t see them and have no idea. So in your communications, ask questions that would help you know, but in an unobtrusive way like – how do you wear your hair? And then say how attractive that must look.
Be Kind.......
Point out nice things or the lemonade in life – nice things the other person has mentioned, nice acts the person has done, good things on the news latterly, etc. Be upbeat, and forget those lemons in life. Even in email a person can shout, by using all capital letters. So show manners and kindness. Keep swearing, unkind remarks, prejudice, etc. out of your communications. And “do unto others….”
So add some helpful real-world tips that do work (a lot of the time anyway) into your online dating equations. And come up on the positive side of romance – and enjoy more lemonade!
Heads up, gents. Online dating can open up new doors of opportunities with a little help from real world dating tips that work. Spice up your matchmaking with some of these ideas.
Looks Count .........
Comment on how attractive she is. Yes, women do want to know they are pretty, even if they’re online and you can’t see them and have no idea. So in your communications, ask questions that would help you know, but in an unobtrusive way like – how do you wear your hair? And then say how attractive that must look.
Be Kind.......
Point out nice things or the lemonade in life – nice things the other person has mentioned, nice acts the person has done, good things on the news latterly, etc. Be upbeat, and forget those lemons in life. Even in email a person can shout, by using all capital letters. So show manners and kindness. Keep swearing, unkind remarks, prejudice, etc. out of your communications. And “do unto others….”
So add some helpful real-world tips that do work (a lot of the time anyway) into your online dating equations. And come up on the positive side of romance – and enjoy more lemonade!
Dutch Dating
Dutch dating means that each person will pay for
themselves when they go out on a date. This method of
dating is often the best when both parties are new to
each other, independent, or just friends.
Many people often like to go Dutch because they are
not comfortable with someone else paying for them.
This is common with women who are liberal or
independent in their thinking.
It is also common if funds are low for both parties.
Both people will split the costs of dinner and any
other activities chosen to do on the date.
They also might meet at the locations or drive
themselves so the other party isn’t responsible for
their transportation.
Dutch dating can be extremely casual and creates a
comfortable atmosphere many people are happy with when
a relationship is new.
Some people just aren’t comfortable with someone else
paying for anything for them until they get to know
them better. In addition, they don’t want to feel as
if they owe them for anything later.
Dutch allows the date to go in a successful manner
without the feelings of being ‘owed’. In addition,
many women understand the expenses associated with
dating and don’t believe it is fair that they guy
should pay for everything, especially if the two go to
an expensive restaurant and do something even more
expensive later.
Dutch dating is common for people who are not
comfortable with someone else spending money on them.
There are many liberal and independent women who are
very proud who prefer to pay their own way also. This
creates a comfortable atmosphere because no one feels
like they owe them for anything later.
Dutch dating means that each person will pay for
themselves when they go out on a date. This method of
dating is often the best when both parties are new to
each other, independent, or just friends.
Many people often like to go Dutch because they are
not comfortable with someone else paying for them.
This is common with women who are liberal or
independent in their thinking.
It is also common if funds are low for both parties.
Both people will split the costs of dinner and any
other activities chosen to do on the date.
They also might meet at the locations or drive
themselves so the other party isn’t responsible for
their transportation.
Dutch dating can be extremely casual and creates a
comfortable atmosphere many people are happy with when
a relationship is new.
Some people just aren’t comfortable with someone else
paying for anything for them until they get to know
them better. In addition, they don’t want to feel as
if they owe them for anything later.
Dutch allows the date to go in a successful manner
without the feelings of being ‘owed’. In addition,
many women understand the expenses associated with
dating and don’t believe it is fair that they guy
should pay for everything, especially if the two go to
an expensive restaurant and do something even more
expensive later.
Dutch dating is common for people who are not
comfortable with someone else spending money on them.
There are many liberal and independent women who are
very proud who prefer to pay their own way also. This
creates a comfortable atmosphere because no one feels
like they owe them for anything later.
Blind Dating
Blind dating is a common way for dating also. It often
occurs when someone is set up on a date through a
friend or a third party.
People are often set up on a blind date through a
friend or a co-worker who knows both parties and
believes they would make a great couple.
If you are recommended to go on a blind date by a
friend who knows you well, you might want to consider
it.
If your friend knows the other person as well as they
know you, they might be right about the two of you
connecting and getting along well together.
When you go on a blind date you might not have any
idea what the other person looks like or you might
have been shown a picture.
In all cases, the person you will be going out with
will be someone you have never met or spoke to before.
It is common to be nervous about going on a blind date
because you don’t know if the person will like you and
you don’t know if you will like the other person.
Some people really enjoy being set up on a blind date
and many blind dates turn into successful
relationships if the right people set the two of you
up.
You should try to know as much information that you
can about the person before you go and be sure your
friend knows the other person well before you go to be
sure the date will not be a disaster.
However, even if the two of you decide that you are
not a compatible couple you might meet someone who
becomes a very good friend of yours in the long run.
Blind dating is a common way for dating also. It often
occurs when someone is set up on a date through a
friend or a third party.
People are often set up on a blind date through a
friend or a co-worker who knows both parties and
believes they would make a great couple.
If you are recommended to go on a blind date by a
friend who knows you well, you might want to consider
it.
If your friend knows the other person as well as they
know you, they might be right about the two of you
connecting and getting along well together.
When you go on a blind date you might not have any
idea what the other person looks like or you might
have been shown a picture.
In all cases, the person you will be going out with
will be someone you have never met or spoke to before.
It is common to be nervous about going on a blind date
because you don’t know if the person will like you and
you don’t know if you will like the other person.
Some people really enjoy being set up on a blind date
and many blind dates turn into successful
relationships if the right people set the two of you
up.
You should try to know as much information that you
can about the person before you go and be sure your
friend knows the other person well before you go to be
sure the date will not be a disaster.
However, even if the two of you decide that you are
not a compatible couple you might meet someone who
becomes a very good friend of yours in the long run.
Tuesday, December 2, 2008
More of...Men's guide to online dating
Just like regular real-world relationships, online relationships need tending, to grow over time. Here are some quick growing tips.
1. Take time and make time. Does your online date get in touch with you regularly? Do you do the same? Neglecting virtual meetings can be considered abuse or neglect, so treat each other’s time with respect. If it’s lacking, might mean time to move on.
2. Communication needs to “feel” right for both of you. If one of you is too pushy about meeting, for instance, that can give off bad vibes. So don’t rush. Take time to learn more about each other and develop trust.
3. Respect each others privacy. Don’t share personal email addresses or digital photos online, for example, if your online date sent you the information in confidence.
4. Share special online and offline fun times. Online – send greeting cards, links to favorite places to upload digital photos of your favorite pet, download music and video clips, post on favorite forums of interest. Offline- if you’re exchanging addresses or post office boxes, send print greeting cards and postcards, small items from your area (like a key chain with your state bird).
Tend your online relationship. Water it with care and over time it can sprout and grow.
Just like regular real-world relationships, online relationships need tending, to grow over time. Here are some quick growing tips.
1. Take time and make time. Does your online date get in touch with you regularly? Do you do the same? Neglecting virtual meetings can be considered abuse or neglect, so treat each other’s time with respect. If it’s lacking, might mean time to move on.
2. Communication needs to “feel” right for both of you. If one of you is too pushy about meeting, for instance, that can give off bad vibes. So don’t rush. Take time to learn more about each other and develop trust.
3. Respect each others privacy. Don’t share personal email addresses or digital photos online, for example, if your online date sent you the information in confidence.
4. Share special online and offline fun times. Online – send greeting cards, links to favorite places to upload digital photos of your favorite pet, download music and video clips, post on favorite forums of interest. Offline- if you’re exchanging addresses or post office boxes, send print greeting cards and postcards, small items from your area (like a key chain with your state bird).
Tend your online relationship. Water it with care and over time it can sprout and grow.
Monday, December 1, 2008
Online Dating Eguide
With all the free and paid dating sites, it is no wonder
we need to put together an eguide........
'Men's guide to online dating'
Never thought I'd see this day coming.....
Online dating is a great way to meet people....actually
wether for a friend or a date. Soooo many people I
know have met someone online, and have had great
success.
Craigslist even has personals you can respond to....
Should you have some concerns? Why, of course...
why wouldn't you?
Its a shame you have to be so careful when you are trying to find your soulmate.
Why can't things in life be easy? I know, I ask all the time.
Let's get serious here, you do need to take heed in what you
do, until you know these people.
1.) When filling out your profile, be honest with yourself,
you will only hurt yourself in the long run.
2.) Don't tell the world who you are, not just yet.
Keep your identity to yourself, at least till you
are somewhat comfortable with this person.
3.) Online dating gives you many more opportunities
and TIME to meet more people.
Just think if you had to go out and socialize all those times
you are e-mailing.
4.) Guys, you know what? Girls are just as afraid of the
dating scene as you all are.
5.) If you have the time, and go out with locals, try
It's Just Lunch. They are great.
6) Many of the dating sites are free, at least till you find someone
whom interests you. Can't go wrong with FREE....
we need to put together an eguide........
'Men's guide to online dating'
Never thought I'd see this day coming.....
Online dating is a great way to meet people....actually
wether for a friend or a date. Soooo many people I
know have met someone online, and have had great
success.
Craigslist even has personals you can respond to....
Should you have some concerns? Why, of course...
why wouldn't you?
Its a shame you have to be so careful when you are trying to find your soulmate.
Why can't things in life be easy? I know, I ask all the time.
Let's get serious here, you do need to take heed in what you
do, until you know these people.
1.) When filling out your profile, be honest with yourself,
you will only hurt yourself in the long run.
2.) Don't tell the world who you are, not just yet.
Keep your identity to yourself, at least till you
are somewhat comfortable with this person.
3.) Online dating gives you many more opportunities
and TIME to meet more people.
Just think if you had to go out and socialize all those times
you are e-mailing.
4.) Guys, you know what? Girls are just as afraid of the
dating scene as you all are.
5.) If you have the time, and go out with locals, try
It's Just Lunch. They are great.
6) Many of the dating sites are free, at least till you find someone
whom interests you. Can't go wrong with FREE....
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